So when you put two things together that I am quite fond-a, Jane + Handbags… You know I’m all over it!
July 16, 2009
So when you put two things together that I am quite fond-a, Jane + Handbags… You know I’m all over it!
July 12, 2009
July 4, 2009
It’s been a rough a year so far. Winds of change blew my house down and my whole world and perspective were suddenly thrusted into starting a new. The tricky thing about starting a new is that it cannot be successful in the true sense of the concept with out breaking old habits and thought patterns. Otherwise you’ll end up with S.S.D.P – an acronym for Same Situation Different People; in which yields same results and respectively defeating the purpose of “starting a new.”

Out with the old....
Taking an unbias assessment your current state, mentally and emotionally, is not easy. It can be down right uncomfortable! However, every once in a while you have to say to yourself, “self, this is where you are and who you are and …” well you take it from there…. It’s important. It’s like a routine physical of the soul.
I myself have been plagued with a myriad of thoughts lately. I felt an unrest within myself and so I took a breath and thought about where I was a year ago today and what my state of mind was then. I revisited choices I had made good, and bad. I assessed my thought patterns that had lead me to make certain choices, and from there I was able to see how much I had grown as a person, I’ve also discovered parts of myself that had gone neglected, simply because I just wasn’t in the mind set to realize that these were areas that needed to be nurtured. With this outlook, I can see how much I’ve evolved. At the end of the day — the beginning of this one… I feel refreshed. I placed my old thought patterns with the old and mentally boxed them up and filed them away under ‘past.’ I look at myself now, in the now … Right now,… I’m strong, content, and ready without fear and doubt of what’s to come or of what is, rather I’m strong, content and ready with faith.
Good Night all….
June 30, 2009
I don’t understand that element in people that makes them feel that they have to measure themselves against another. Like snowflakes, no two people are alike. Comparing yourself, your life, your realtionship, your job, your style, your talent, etc. Is an intricate component of your downfall. Getting consumed with someone else’s accomplishments or lifestyle can lead you to making the poorest of choices thus leaving you in an even unhappier place than in which you’ve started. Focusing on what you need and what you want will compell you to make the proper choices and see things in the proper perspective to get there. Go at your own pace to get what you need. Attempting to keep up with someone else never ends well.
June 9, 2009
Duh Duh DUUUHhhhhh… ((ominous music))
Every now and again, you maybe in a relationship or circumstance that warrants “the talk.” It is dreaded as it is uncomfortable knowing that there is a very real possibility that this talk will not go as you hoped. This talk often begins with the “where are we going” or “what do you want” or a few key phrases in the mix of this talk might have :
“I’m at the point in my life where”
“I’m tired of playing games”
“We’ve been together for (X amt of time)”
Blah, blah,… should you find yourself yearning to have such a talk with your signifiant other and it’s been a while coming, but that frog in your throat (otherwise known as the very real possibility the response you will get is not favorable) has you almost reluctant to mention it, you must also think of whether or not you’ll be comfortable remaining at this point in your relationship. Once it’s verbalized that the worst case scenario is your reality, what do you do? It’s like drawing a line in the sand. Once you express that you want more and would like to know if “more” is yet to come, if at all… then it puts you both in prospective.
You have to be prepared for “the talk.” If you go all in and your bluff is called, there is no turning back. You’d be going against yourself should you discover that you’re in a dead-end relationship and decide to hang in there with that frail strand of hope that this person will come around. Should you walk away, you might walk away feeling like you called it quits too soon.
This infamous talk is the maker or breaker of realtionships and/or sometimes self esteems. The reason I said that “the talk” is the breaker of self esteems, is because there is ever the “conquorer” type people who just feel that they can get someone to come around. When that doesn’t happen, their self esteem depleats.
Follow your instincts, if what you want and need out of life and relationships have matured past the relationship you’re currently in, then you owe it to yourself will suck, and it will be a disappointment but you count your blessings that you’re not being strung along and you were given this honest information and embark on your quest for one who is right for you.
You cannot make pieces of a puzzle fit if they don’t and you most certainly don’t want to stick around in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere; this breeds resentment. Who’s got time for that in this short uncertain lifetime? You deserve someone who wants to provide what you need. You deserve someone who is capable of understanding you, appreciating you and wanting to learn and grow with you throughout the years. If “the talk” doesn’t go as planned and you find out you’re two different people wanting two different things, thank your lucky stars and don’t waste another moment delaying the inevitable.. reaping misery and bringing others down as well. It’s just NOT worth it.